3 Steps to Cultivating Inner Sexiness

You know, that person that you see — they just seem to exude that something special that you can’t quite put your hands on? They radiate charisma, an air of confidence, ease, joy and a certain je ne sais quoi. Some people naturally have this way of being, while others need to cultivate it. This is what it means to radiate inner sexiness.

In our search for love, we’re primarily seeking two things: love/acceptance of self, and a connection with God/Source. And while it doesn't sound very sexy, it's this core understanding that many people are lacking when looking for love. Usually, all of their energy is going outward, instead of inward.

While someone might initially be attracted to you for your looks, (don't get me wrong, I'm all about looking “hot”), what’s going to create that deeper connection, and have them commit to you is solely based on how you make them feel. No matter how “together” you may appear on the outside, you cannot fool energy. How you truly feel about yourself, along with what you believe, is what will play out in your life. This is why physical attraction is often very short-lived.

Often times we carry in our energy field the emotions of stress, loneliness, worry, anger, resentment, jealousy, and the need to be right! How heavy and unattractive are these feelings? So often I see extraordinarily beautiful, honest, loving, kind, successful, gifted women repelling the love that they’re seeking. Now try on feelings of ease, gratitude, understanding, joy, worthiness, belief, flexibility, patience and trust. Don't you feel lighter? And yes, that leads to looking sexier too. You’re actually becoming open and approachable!

 You might ask, what's all this got to do with attracting love or anything else? I say everything!

I once worked with a doctor who, prior to us meeting, had been very unsuccessful and incredibly frustrated with online dating. After assisting him in cultivating his inner sexiness, he immediately started attracting different types of women and he didn't even need to change his profile. 

This is what he had to say

"I had been using an online dating service and was not having much luck. And then, seemingly out of nowhere, “she” appeared into my life — like a breath of fresh air. She's a wonderful woman, more than I could ever dream. She is my “soul-mate” I have to thank Keiya for helping me create a vacuum so that someone spectacular could come into my life”

So, if you feel like you’ve been spinning your wheels “doing” everything to attract that someone special, then it may be time to try something new. Here’s are a few steps to help you get you started!

Three steps to cultivating your inner sexiness

1. Meditation & Prayer: Both connect you to a power greater than yourself. They calm your nervous system and silence negative thoughts. Both of these steps are non-negotiable! If you’re serious about cultivating your inner sexiness, they are a must.

2. Gratitude Journal: A genuinely grateful person is a happy person. Super sexy! I say "genuinely" because many people keep a journal simply out of habit, or they make it a “should” do. Doesn't feel good, does it? For this to work, it needs to be a sincere, heartfelt and good-feeling experience every time.

3. Look for Evidence: This helps boost your belief system. For example, say someone attractive from the opposite sex smiles at you, or makes eye contact with you. Instead of wondering what they're looking at, or assuming they must be looking at someone else, change your thought to seeing it as: you're becoming more attractive. and being seen. A shift in perspective creates a shift in energy, which then leads to a shift in your level of attraction/manifestation.

If you’re thinking I’ve heard this all before, then my question to you is, “Have you put these steps into practice consistently?” When you change how you’re being and what you’re doing, your outer experience must change. It’s a universal law.