As a high school administrator, much of my day is supposed to be centered on improving teacher instruction, ensuring school facilities promote learning, and general supervision of day-to-day routines. However, over time, I have discovered that I now dedicate more time to counseling young adults through anxiety in lieu of my traditional responsibilities. This added time commitment for counseling has also exponentially grown since 2020. To guide my students well, a determination of the source for student anxiety is crucial. Once determined, I am then able to offer practical advice that leaves them encouraged, humble, and energized.
The combination of apprehensiveness combined with the culturally posited idea that we can do anything we put our minds to often reduces a child’s ability to grow both academically and socially. This often results in children being paralyzed in the grip of anxiety. If we seek to guide our children well, we need them learn to outsource their worry.
Let’s examine three mannerisms that tend to be sources for a child’s increased anxiety.
All three mannerisms are essentially selfish outlooks. By assisting children to understand that pride is an underlying root of anxiety, we position them to limit their anxiety. We can then teach them to outsource their worry. However, selfish pride comes naturally. Outsourcing worry comes supernaturally.
Children naturally want to take care of their own problems, but personal experience often reveals that they don’t do it well. This just adds to their anxiety. They really need a new nature secured through a higher power.
Looking outside of ourselves for assistance is diverting our faith from self onto another source. But faith is only as strong as the person in whom we place it, so we must be purposeful when we do this. Misplaced faith increases anxiety. Getting our students to comprehend that a supernatural power is sometimes necessary to lessen anxiety is indeed counter-cultural, but reality informs everyone that internalizing worry complicates matters.
Rather than internalizing worry, we should guide others to instead appeal to something more powerful and selfless than we are. If we truly seek to help others overcome their anxiety, we really should advise them to outsource their worry.
Dr. Anthony is a cancer-survivor, secondary administrator, author, speaker, and advocate for wise living. He is the author of Finite Obstacles ~ Infinite Truth. He adds value to others’ lives by teaching people how to overcome challenges, how to lead with grace and accountability, and by advocating for wise choices based on truth. Learn more at www.DrRobAnthony.com, and https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-rob-anthony/.