6 Steps to Gently Get Your Man to Meet Your Emotional Needs Comments

I'm so sick of hearing aww take care of him first . Whatever it's called being human you love someone act like it. Noone needs to hold your little mans hand to get him to love you or want to show any kind of emotion. Shouldn't have to train someone to love.

The woman will always be first teacher in this world!a lot of this planets culture has been tampered with so it's kind of a gender war no balance everybody want to be boss try becoming one force conquering your dreams together build a heaven together stop treating eachother like crap competing with each other creating hell in the home you suppose to be creating a heaven together in!i respect this takes guts to be yourself now days.its true men have been programmed to see the woman as below him

Being an attorney & trainer do not make this man an expert in the topics he is addressing -- he is expressing his opinions. It appears that he took a few idea from here & there, put them together and now espouses 'techniques' without sound science.

This the the problem with most but not all women. Men are not your girlfriends. We try to please you but you only complain. Like most narcissist. You need to look at yourself before you look at someone else. He's only giving you what you mirror him.

Put aside the facts that the author believes a man's problems have to become a woman's responsibility to fix, and adult men are apparently incapable of personal growth, the steps outlined don't even make sense. The conclusions drawn in this article seem silly and offensive to both men and women, IMO.

So "she" has the job of reprogramming "him". That right there is the biggest problem in our relationship. "She" has no right whatsoever to reprogram anyone. If he does not meet her needs and/or expectations, get over it. She also does not meet our expectations and needs either. So we must live together, learn to compromise and just try to do the best we know how. There is no "reprogramming" in marriage!

I find this hard to read. So if he's frustrated and angry and makes me the scape goat for all that is wrong in his life...I'm supposed reflect on that and tell him "you are angry or frustrated" and then just reflect on what he said. It doesn't matter if I tell him word for word what he's told me...to prove that I listen. He likes the blame game. Yes, I agree ....the "I" statement doesn't work. And I 've also been told that "no, he knew my feelings more than I did or what was going on in my head. How do you get a guy to communicate with you when they in a constant state of disconnect. How are you supposed to guess what they need all the time because they "choose" not to communicate! Don't they have to take some responsibility and grow up a bit! How is it that he can't communicate with me to tell me what he needs, but found it very easy to text, "socialize" and pursue another...we are married btw. And now I'm supposed to meet his needs? YIKES!I was never not available to him before. I get it....guys are wired differently than women and not emotionally connected but it sounds like this is just giving them an excuse. I was told my whole childhood as well...don't cry...or you're ok...or whatever be tough. I don't have a problem expressing my emotions. Why do we need to give them an excuse to "choose" not to check in emotionally and then work so hard to drag an emotional connection out of them. Tired of moving around the country for him...to follow his dreams...be available for him...and have him go outside the marriage and then be told to meet his needs first! Really?!?! Emotionally exhausted!!

This is crazy. Not all baby boys are raised the same and told the same things and people (male and female) are just plain different. Not on how they are raised but a lot of other factors. Single parent home, deceased parent, gay parents, only child, twins, what part of the country they are born and raised....etc. etc. Come on this sounds like its about training a puppy.

On second glance, this article being written by a man, gives the impression that a mans emotional intelligence is the responsibility of his spouse.

I think having to teach another adult to be emotionally mature is absurd. We have to realize how to emotionally mature, but men can't?
This is actually implying that they are not intelligent enough to realize and mature.
There are emotionally mature men out there.