Posts by Paul Friedman

The dynamics of a breakup Relationship advice for those who are breaking up is still useful for getting a marriage back together. It should be known, however, that when both want to recapture the relationship it is an easier process. Most often a relationship can be saved even when there is infidelity. But it is more difficult to save marriages that are falling apart when the wife has become involved...
1/4/2009 6:27:06 PM
No, I'm not trying to be cheeky. Honest! Marriage counselors are good people. You like everyone else, do your best with what you know, but it's still a struggle for you to have a happy relationship because what makes a marriage work is not generally known. Western psychology is meant to identify diseases of the mind - it is not useful for marriage. (On a PBS broadcast I heard the success rate for certified...
1/4/2009 6:26:50 PM
Plan your life and plan to love The love you feel for each other is just the beginning. It gets better every day, And here is how! Forget those people who tell you how your love and passion will take a back seat to the so called realities of life. What do they know! Just because "everybody" says the same thing doesn't make it true either. Remember not too long ago "everyone" believed if you sailed...
1/4/2009 6:26:30 PM
If the divorce rate tells us anything it is that women have not chosen their life mate well. I have listed the three most common errors that women make. Don't become a divorce statistic. See if these common errors would be the ones you would make. 1) Is he drop-dead gorgeous? If he is remember that looks improve with love and diminish in importance over time. Don't even imagine that a man's looks has...
1/4/2009 6:25:41 PM
You have welcomed a new person to grow up in your family. You have in fact changed your family forever and it no longer belongs to just the two of you. Through your generosity and love you have opened your hearts and home and expanded yourselves to include your children. What you have done is selfless, loving and incredibly generous. The sacrifices you will make and the efforts you will put forth will...
1/4/2009 6:25:25 PM
When I sought to help married couples, it was because of my experience with the family law court system. I saw for myself how destructive it is for families and our society. It is like a predatory virus. As soon as you're exposed to it, the door is open for tremendous suffering. It has been perpetuating itself through an unholy alliance with marriage counselors and clinical psychologists. Marriage...
1/4/2009 6:25:05 PM
Warning: This Article is for Those who are Having Second Thoughts soon After the Wedding and are Not Pregnant and Don't Have Children If you're wondering what you just did by getting married to this almost total stranger you are, unfortunately, not alone. Way too many people jump the gun and get married without really getting to know the person they are marrying. On the other hand you may have just...
1/4/2009 6:21:14 PM