Life is forever challenging for us all. We carry pains and life’s lessons all the way through. None of us are exempt from these sharper edges. We are here to grow. The signature purpose and intention behind life’s sharper edges is to provide us that very opportunity. What might seem like and enemy will likely turn out to be the only possible thing that could have caused us enough discomfort to finally...
It is said that Abraham Lincoln, when he was President of the U.S., was advised to include a certain man in his cabinet. When he refused he was asked why he would not accept him. "I don't like his face," the President replied. "But the poor man isn't responsible for his face," responded his advocate. "Every man over forty is responsible for his face" countered Lincoln. I heard this years ago, can’t...
Few of us think twice about the effects that the colors around us can have on our mood and behavior. Beyond being purely aesthetic, color can add depth and meaning to our spaces, sometimes even relaying messages we may not consciously realize we’re receiving. Color can be so powerful that branding and marketing companies choose specific palette combinations in the hopes of manipulating us to purchase...
A pessimistic personality can drive away loved ones, and, more seriously, it can -drastically impact health- — in a bad way. Unfortunately, recognizing that you have an attitude problem doesn’t necessarily result in an improved viewpoint, especially if this challenge is deeply rooted in anxiety, anger or depression. Most people don’t walk around with a permanent smile, but it should be concerning if...
Pessimism is a world-wide problem, according to the -World Economic Forum. From the United States to South America and around the globe, many people view things as being worse than they really are. Importantly, it’s an interesting phenomenon with real-life consequences. The truth is, personal levels of pessimism/optimism could impact health and quality of life. And it may even shorten your lifespan....
The room was silent except for the hum of the machines, the rhythmic blip of the heart monitor, and the quiet cadence of my dad’s breathing. With no hope of recovery, life support was about to be terminated. I was spending a few last moments with him. I was 15. Suddenly, I became acutely aware of my own heartbeat. It was in perfect sync with dad's heart monitor. Stunned, I realized several profound...
“Eat this, but not that, and you will lose weight." “Do this exercise and your body will transform." “Follow this meal plan to reach your goal." Anyone who is unhappy with their body, and has ever gone to a class at the gym, picked up a magazine, or had a conversation with friends, has at some point heard someone say something like one of these statements. In this diet obsessed culture we live in,...
Don't worry. Be happy. It's a sentiment you hear all the time in songs and on talk shows, but it turns out that Oprah, Dr. Phil and Bobby McFerrin may have really been onto something! Positive attitudes can actually physically affect your health for the better, and negative ones can wreak havoc on everything from your intestines to your chromosomes. Take a look at how emotion is linked to wellness...
If there's one thing that we all seek - it's happiness. I've never met a person who has told me they didn't want to be happy, have you? When I do individual therapy, I have the opportunity to sit down with people as they present their concerns to me - whatever they may be. They usually seek therapy because they're experiencing some level of emotional distress - and are fundamentally unhappy. I've noticed...